Here's a small mental exercise with big insight: take a moment in your mind to gather the people in your family who have died around a dinner table. You are allowed to ask or tell them one last thing. Spend no time thinking about it -- write down the first thing that pops into your head.

I'll go:

Grandma Lizzie: Your cinnamon rolls were really, really delicious.

Grandpa Guy: Did you really balance a push lawn mower on your chin, or am I crazy?

Grandma L: Did you ever think about me?

Dad: Your grandchildren are beautiful.